Burnout sneaks up: late nights, an "I can just finish one more thing" mindset, and promises to rest that never materialize. Burnout is not laziness — it’s emotional, physical, and mental exhaustion from pushing beyond your limits in the context of prolonged stress. Therapy can help you restore energy, rebuild sustainable habits, and prevent relapse.

Signs of burnout

• Physical: Constant fatigue, headaches, muscle tension, digestive issues, poor sleep, frequent illness

• Emotional: Irritability, anxiety, agitation, numbness, loss of motivation or joy, sadness

• Cognitive: Brain fog, forgetfulness, trouble concentrating, indecision

How burnout develops
Burnout often grows from years of over-functioning, perfectionism, and people-pleasing—strategies that once worked but now leave the nervous system stuck in survival mode.

Therapy for burnout
Recovery is more than rest. In therapy we will:

• Map how your roles, expectations, and coping strategies were created and reinforced

• Restructure daily life with realistic limits, delegation, and prioritization

• Reframe perfectionist and people-pleasing beliefs that drive overwork

• Learn body-based tools to calm your nervous system and restore regulation

Integrated, trauma-informed methods
I blend CBT, ACT/mindfulness, DBT, attachment/psychodynamic work, and somatic grounding so your nervous system, habits, and beliefs shift together—helping insight become change today.

What therapy can offer

• Balanced mood and body

• Clearer thinking and decision making

• Healthier boundaries and less guilt around rest

• Sustainable balance: work that fits the life you want

If you’re exhausted and ready to refill your tank, I offer in-person burnout therapy in Danville, CA and online across California and Hawai’i.

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Are you often saying yes when you want to say no, apologizing for simply existing, weighed down by guilt, or stuck in constant motion? Chronic people-pleasing quietly drains energy and blurs who you are. I help adults shift from automatic caretaking into living with authenticity and balance.

Signs you might be a people-pleaser

• Saying “yes” when you want to say “no”

• Avoiding conflict or difficult conversations

• Feeling responsible for other people’s feelings

• Neglecting your own needs, rest, or priorities

How therapy helps
Therapy gives you practical tools and a safe space to change patterns. Together we will:

• Identify the core beliefs that keep you people-pleasing

• Practice healthy boundary skills you can use immediately

• Rebuild self-worth that’s not tied to doing or pleasing

• Shift self-critical thinking toward self-compassion and clear action

My integrated approach
As an integrationist, I combine evidence-based tools tailored to you: Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) to reframe unhelpful thinking, Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) and mindfulness to reconnect with values and your thoughts, feelings, body sensations, psychodynamic/attachment work to trace origins, and body-based methods to release stuck emotion and trauma. This mix turns insight into lasting change.

What to expect in recovery

• Clearer, kinder boundaries that feel natural

• Less anxiety about others’ approval

• Deeper, more connected relationships

• More energy and time for what matters to you

• Greater ease asking for and receiving help

Ready to reclaim your voice? I offer in-person therapy in Danville, CA and online across California and Hawai’i for adults ready to get unstuck.

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Perfectionism looks productive from the outside—but underneath it often carries relentless self-criticism, procrastination, and burnout. If your worth feels tied to results or flawless performance, therapy can help you keep what’s useful and let go of what’s costly.

Signs of perfectionism

• Harsh inner critic and trouble celebrating wins

• Procrastination driven by fear of failure

• Over-functioning and all-or-nothing thinking

• Chronic shame, guilt, or fragile self-esteem

How it develops
Perfectionism often begins as a survival strategy—being “the good one” to earn safety or approval. Over time, it becomes an internal rulebook that narrows possibility and joy.

Therapy for perfectionism
Therapy is not about lowering standards—it’s about increasing flexibility so you can perform sustainably. We will:

• Trace the roots of your perfectionism to understand how and why it protected you.

• Address the inner critic with evidence-based techniques like Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) and Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT)

• Practice “good enough” experiments and values-driven action (ACT)

• Rebuild curiosity, creativity, and rest alongside productivity

Integrated approach
I combine CBT, ACT, attachment/psychodynamic work, and somatic methods to shift thinking, behavior, and body response—so change lasts.

Signs of healing

• More energy and less burnout

• Broader emotional life and more joy

• Increased creativity and risk-taking without paralysis

• A kinder inner voice and steadier sense of self

• More satisfying and balanced relationships

If perfectionism is costing your health or relationships, therapy can help you achieve without exhaustion. I offer in-person therapy in Danville, CA, and secure online sessions across California and Hawai’i

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Codependency isn’t just being “too helpful.” It’s a set of survival strategies that developed when your emotional needs weren’t reliably met. Those strategies kept you safe once—but now they may leave you drained, anxious, and unsure of who you are. Therapy helps you untangle old patterns and reconnect to yourself.

What Codependency Looks Like (Pia Mellody):

• Functional Boundaries
  Struggling to know where you stop and others begin. You might take on others’ feelings as if they’re your own, or wall yourself off completely. Either way, staying connected while protecting yourself feels hard.

• Self-Esteem
  Basing your worth on external measures—how others see you, what you accomplish, or whether you’re approved of—rather than on a steady sense of being “good enough” as you are.

• Reality
  Having difficulty owning your own reality—your feelings, thoughts, and needs—or respecting someone else’s. You may dismiss what you feel, or assume others should see things the way you do.

• Self-Care
  Neglecting your own needs while over-focusing on others. Eating, resting, or even pausing to breathe can feel like luxuries instead of necessities.

• Moderation
  Finding balance is tough. You might swing between overdoing and underdoing—whether it’s work, caretaking, or even expressing emotions.

These patterns are adaptive responses to early experiences, not flaws. But, as life progresses, this can begin to cause problems in life.

How Codependency Develops

Codependency usually arises from environments where:

• Feelings were dismissed or punished

• Boundaries weren’t respected

• Roles were reversed (children caretaking adults)

• Love and approval felt conditional

What once protected you may now leave you drained, resentful, or unsure of who you are.

Therapy for Codependency

I use an integrative, trauma-informed approach tailored to your needs. Therapy may include:

• Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT): Identify and challenge beliefs and behaviors that keep you stuck

• Dialectical Behavioral Therapy (DBT): Mindfulness, interpersonal effectiveness, and emotion-regulation skills to practice healthy boundaries

• Psychodyanmic, Internal Family Systems (IFS) & Attachment Work: Heal childhood wounds, meet inner “People-Pleaser” or “Inner Child” parts

• Somatic & Experiential Techniques: Breath and body work to release emotions and body sensations held in the body

• Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) & Mindfulness Practices: Foster self-compassion, awareness, and values-based action

Healing Goals

In therapy, we will:

• Understand the roots of your patterns so they finally make sense

• Rebuild boundaries—say no without guilt, yes without resentment

• Recover self-worth independent of performance or caretaking

• Reconnect with needs and feelings to live authentically

• Shift responsibility so you carry what’s truly yours—and let go of what isn’t

Codependency therapy isn’t about becoming someone new—it’s about coming home to yourself.

If codependency has left you feeling stuck or resentful, you don’t have to do it alone. I offer in-person therapy in Danville, CA, and secure online sessions across California and Hawai’i.

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I offer consultation and support to mental health professionals navigating challenging cases, burnout, or the development of their private practices. Whether you seek clinical guidance or professional growth support, I’m here to help.