Therapy for Burnout, Boundaries, and Codependency in California & Hawaiʻi

Helping over-functioners, people pleasers, and high achieving adults slow down, set limits, and reconnect with themselves

Portrait of a woman, Dr. Erin McKnew, PsyD, with long blonde hair, smiling, wearing a dark green sweater, standing against a plain light-colored background.

I’m a licensed psychologist providing in person therapy in Danville, CA, and virtual therapy throughout California and Hawai‘i

You’re the one people turn to. The responsible one. The calm one. The one who gets it done. But lately, something’s shifted. You’re overwhelmed, drained, maybe even a little resentful. You keep showing up—at work, at home, in relationships—but you're wondering: Where am I in all of this? You don’t need fixing. You need space. Therapy isn’t about becoming someone different. It’s about becoming more you—without constantly sacrificing your needs to meet everyone else’s.

I help thoughtful, capable people untangle patterns that no longer serve them. That often means working through burnout, people pleasing, codependency, or perfectionism—so you can move forward with more clarity, ease, and a growing sense of empowerment. Whether you’re burned out, stuck in old roles, or tired of saying yes when you really mean no, therapy can help.

Core Services

  • Move from chronic exhaustion to sustained energy by setting healthy boundaries, completing your stress cycle, and reconnecting with what really matters.

    Want to dive deeper? Read my blog, “Burnout Is Trying to Tell You Something.”

  • Untangle people-pleasing and overgiving by first recognizing the patterns that keep you stuck—and then growing your boundary-building skills so you can protect your energy and honor your needs.

    Want to learn more?

    Identify your codependent habits: Read my blog, “How to Know You’re Codependent.”

    Build your boundary skills: Explore my blog “Healthy Boundaries 101.”

  • Develop tools to ride life’s ups and downs with steadiness, calm, self-compassion.

  • Navigate big changes—promotions, moves, relationship shifts—with guidance that keeps you grounded and growing.

What Sets My Approach Apart

Relatable and Practical

I skip the jargon and share evidence-based strategies in plain, down-to-earth language—so you can start using them right away.

A Dash of Humor

Therapy doesn’t need to feel like a lecture. We’ll keep things light enough to stay engaging, while still doing the deep work.

Licensed in California and Hawai’i

Offering secure teletherapy for clients across California and Hawai’i and in-person sessions in Danville, California—so you can get support wherever you are.

“Burnout is what happens when you avoid being human for too long.”

— Michael Gungor

Ready to Trade “Do More” for “Be More?”

Schedule your free 20-minute consultation and let’s get you in your own corner.

If you are experiencing a life threatening emergency, call 911 or go to the nearest ER

If you are not in danger, but need immediate support, call 988, a mental health crisis hotline